You’ll have to decide whether your family members and friends are the kind of people who can get over the age gap in your relationship given time, or if they’ll always hold it against them for this simple fact.Depending on what phase of your life you currently find yourself in (college, your first job, or divorced in your 40s), it can be hard to get to a deeper level with someone who’s just not in the same place.If the 2 of us stand together you wouldnt know that im that much older than him.Ive never gone out with anyone this much younger so i guess what im asking is do you think its too much of an age difference. My first thought is no, it isn't too much of an age gap; my advise is to go for it.My ex-husband was 15 years older than I, and it really made no difference in terms of the health of our relationship. Now I'm dating someone 16 years younger (He's 29, I'm 45), and it still makes no difference. I have been married before, but I'm the first woman he's lived with. If I were his age, I wouldn't know how to handle some of the challenges life has been throwing my (our) way and I don't think I'd be as good a partner. He was 27, and oh my god, I felt like I was dating a high-schooler sometimes.To be fair, he knows a lot of things I don't know (he's a scientist and I'm an artist), so it evens out. The problem was that he really felt the difference (of only TWO YEARS! It made him overbearing and controlling, like he had to perpetually prove he was the dominant one in the relationship. She can play/watch movies with him and get along and then boom-get away from me, I don't want you here with me, get away, leave me alone. She is so pretty and has blackheads all around her nose and pimples on her forehead (she covers with her bangs), doesn't brush her teeth and won't shower on a daily basis. I understand that she fights with her brother, is obsessed with the computer, procrastinates when you ask her to do something, does not brush her teeth regularly, does not shower daily, could wash her face more often, resented moving out of state, doubly resented moving again a year later, had to be battled into wearing a bra and deodorant, and probably has mood swings.
In a classic study of human mating from 1989, David Buss surveyed 37 cultures across 6 continents and found that in every culture in question, men preferred to marry younger women (2.66 years younger on average) and women preferred to marry older men (3.42 years older on average).
Theoretically, the age differences are less critical during certain years -- during middle-age years, not to put too fine a point on it.
Age differences are critical among younger folks, pretty dang critical if someone is 92 and the partner is 65. I can't think of a critical reason why 36 and 48 matters very much at all. I have dated someone 15 years younger and while it was very nice in certain respects, I was uncomfortable with certain things such as his mother and I were only nine years apart in age.
Look at this way, “Whatever YOU feel is fine, IS okay! A 85 year old person that still jogs 10 miles per day is far from being normal but, is that wrong?
It sounds like your relationship with your daughter is full of fighting right now, and I hear -- especially in the way you sign your name -- that you are finding it difficult to be the parent you'd like to be.