He actually was a couple inches taller than me, but the question caught me off guard. probably not,” I awkwardly admitted, embarrassed that I had gone with the two-inch wedges. ” She laughed at me and said, “Oh, I promise, your priorities are going to change.” “Not about that,” I replied. When Mark asked me to his dance months later, I not-so-politely declined—“Oh, Mark, you know we are just friends”—and instead accepted a later invitation from his significantly taller but significantly less charming friend.
It was as if he had peeped in on my mental conversation earlier that afternoon, when I was debating whether I should wear wedges or flats.“I don’t really know . While he probably just asked this question out of banal curiosity—he wasn’t exactly the tallest guy in the world—little did he know how loaded this question really was. Years before this, I went to an all-female high school, which meant that if there were going to be boys present at a dance, we had to invite them. Sure, Mark was my buddy from childhood—we talked on AIM all the time. Through high school and college, and even into my early twenties, with beau after beau, height was one of the defining characteristics in what I found attractive in a man.
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Single people sign up for a half-dozen dating sites and apps in order to widen their pool, yet most won't break the height taboo. Men should date women who are taller than they are, and women should date shorter men.
After all, shouldn’t the right man make me feel feminine and small?
Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing bad in finding your man’s height swoon-worthy.
For chrissakes, I'm talking about , Amy Webb's memoir about online dating, she confesses she felt she needed a man who was at least five-ten.
(Webb is five-six, making that requirement just one inch shy of the eight-percent average.) "I wanted someone to overpower me, who could wrap his entire body around me in a hug, but who could also throw me down on a bed and ravish me," she writes.
In my work with women, I’ve found that there are two basic reasons why most women won’t date a short man: Some women will feel nervous about being too big, telling themselves they’ll look smaller if they’re with a bigger guy; others simply want the knight in shining armor, and they need a man to live up to a fantasy image of masculinity and size, telling themselves that a bigger man is also automatically emotionally stronger, too.OK, I'll admit it: I typically throw the "tall" requirement out there for my ideal guy. I blame the lanky heights of Alexander Skarsgard and the entire NBA. Sometimes I missed my heels or longed for his buddies to stop with the jokes, but there are plenty of positives to dating the vertically challenged.That being said, luckily I don't have a one-track mind — I have dated my share of short guys. Here are some reasons to give the shorties a chance.She is one of my clients who has never dated a short man, and she has no intention to ever date one.She insists, “I’m just not attracted to them.” Alexis is a smart woman, and she is also a nice person, even though her attitudes about short men are actually pretty patronizing and dismissive.