We really ARE NOT inherently bitchy people with “chips on our shoulders.” Well some are, but nobody pays any attention to them anyway.
We felt it important to offer some insight into “women in wheelchairs” for future features, which we hope you will continue!
Perhaps “top ten positions for sex with a chick in a wheelchair” or “benefits of dating someone in a wheelchair”?
Kristy Goosman Hughes My first impression was, What a stupid picture! Loren Worthington I like those old 70 pound Wheelchairs.
It’s also their loss for not giving me a chance, but still.
So where physical appearances fall short the hope is that my looks and smile draw them in instead.
The wheelchair itself carries a certain negative, unattractive social stigma, and until some hunky singer comes out with a “She Makes My Wheelchair Sexy” type song that sweeps the nation then it might not change. Instead, a typical exchange with a girl involves her looking at my wheelchair first, then my legs in “I wonder why they don’t work” fashion, then my face, then the wheelchair/legs again, then dismissively away.
I have never been with someone so thoughtful and kind. Chad’s disability is very limiting because he only has a shoulder shrug and head turn and as such requires total care for all activities of daily living.
I tried putting it in my profile and taking it out in an attempt to feel out what was the best thing to do and what felt right to me as a person.
And ultimately, for the most part, I ended up choosing not to use photos where my disability was obvious.
However, if you are keen to listen, there are a few glaring ways this feature could have applied to a majority of chair users instead of a minority.
We don’t want to come off as whiney or angry crips who can never be happy and find offense in every possible way we are portrayed.