The thing is, even if she’s interesting, she most likely wrote a whole bunch of clichés in her profile: “I’m nice, smart, kind, warm, funny, honest and family-oriented. I’m looking for my best friend, lover and partner in crime for a lifetime of love and laughter.” (Scary how easy it is to approximate the typical online dating profile, isn’t it? Even a specific response like “I noticed you enjoy biking. For example, if you’re writing to the foot model, you might say: Let’s drink to our fashion careers, Evan Sure, it’s a little goofy, but people actually respond to this stuff. Because it’s different, it’s audacious and, in a strange way, it’s kind of smart. It’s not an idle compliment or a generic, “Ooh, look what we have in common” line. Start your comment in the subject heading of the email, like this… Talk to you soon, Evan If these kinds of emails don’t work for you, no problem. Just keep in mind that the confidence it takes to write an email like that is compelling.It’s a joke and, as we all know, people like people who make them laugh. I can fix your computer, landscape your backyard and probably even hotwire your car, but, for some reason, Ti Vo programming seems to elude me as well. Playing it safe is fine, but if an attractive person has dozens, if not hundreds, of options, you need to shake things up a little bit to break through the clutter. Interesting piece, which I’ll have to parse at length when I have the time…but it leads me to throw out a theory I’ve been kicking around."A good online dating email should have four components: a greeting, an attempt to establish a connection, a request to chat and a closing.1. As I discuss in , good manners are often lacking in today's email and texting culture.By greeting him by his name, his handle or by simply saying "Hey there," you stand out and show that you're polite and respectful.2. Online dating involves looking at tons of profiles and interacting with complete strangers. Instead of sending a generic, impersonal message, try to establish a connection with him, to interest him beyond your profile or the thousands of other women he's checked out. Does his secret love of science fiction strike a cord in you? Then watch how quickly other quality people who also put in the same type of effort are drawn to you!
So how do you cobble together something from a pile of nothing? If not, the person you’re contacting probably has 10 emails just like yours sitting on the computer screen. Even though you’re writing to someone out of the blue, do so with the belief that this person would be lucky to have you. Your profile ultimately does the selling; your email just has to pique their interest.
They say that "like attracts like," so if you want to meet someone who is well-groomed, articulate, and interesting you first need to make sure your profile is of the same caliber.
Post realistic but flattering photos, and write something about yourself that is intriguing and tells your suitors what you are passionate about and what makes you tick.
However, our panel agrees that his email could have shown a bit more confidence.
Also, the astonishment he expresses over her beauty/brains combo could be seen as offensive. She emailed him back, and the two are happily dating. I see that you recently saw the show Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat. I look forward to hearing from you.-Brad The feedback:“The open-ended question doesn’t bother me as much as what the question is about: the play.