As I sat with my closest girlfriends on our routine girls’ night out (GNO) one Saturday evening, the suspense at the table didn’t go unnoticed.Prior to our meeting, I had mentioned that I had some news to share.Here are eight signs your date is not over his/her ex. Whether he’s waxing poetic about the good times, bashing her character or just dropping casual mentions like, “Oh, you like chai lattes, too? To totally deny that a once-important person in her life ever existed is almost as large a red flag as would be constantly talking about him. When you visit your significant other’s house, photos and trinkets from the last relationship are still in plain site — and there are no real plans to return her stuff, either. When it comes to your relationship, he’s on-again, off-again. If you’re uncomfortable with the role the ex plays in your date’s life, there’s likely a good reason.My ex thought the ones at this coffee shop were pretty great. When someone isn’t over a past relationship, it can be hard to commit to a new one. She wasted no time jumping into a relationship with you. Ask him about it directly and communicate that you’re willing to back off and give him the space he needs before he’s ready to start dating someone new.
When you are single and looking to mingle, you generally will not hurt anyone if you start dating “just to see where things go.” Plenty of men do this all the time.Tell me what you think,” too much ex talk can indicate that she’s still on his mind — all the time. Worse: Your relationship started before his last one officially ended. If your date is still invested in what the ex is doing, he’s not over her. They still call, text or email each other regularly, with your date seeming more invested in an old relationship than the new one.I have learnt through maturity and life’s little lessons, that limiting yourself or options because of the checklist of the perfect man or ideal relationship you have etched in your mind doesn’t actually prove to be realistic. Yes the other woman; the ex who will always be present in both of your lives. Will your plans get rescheduled at the last minute, because something came up with the child or because of a situation with the other parent? Can your significant other manage any possible drama? And let’s be real, what about feeling secure about your relationship when you see him with her and their child, looking like a happy family unit? Still, it was a great relief to have taken that step. another thing with dating someone who has a child is this…But while it isn’t the ideal situation for some women, is dating a guy with a child really all that bad? It very well depends on the man, and how serious he is about getting into a committed relationship. When my guy mentioned that he had a child, I admit that the fear factor did set in. Having to deal with the ‘chile mudda’ may not be one’s cup of tea, but this is one of the things you may have to do while you’re dating your guy. something even more special is added to the relationship, as the guy would have to trust you to take such a big step in introducing you to his prized possession, and it’s often a good sign that he takes you seriously.