According to research, women who send messages to men are twice as likely to receive a response compared to men who start conversations.
We men love to complain about how women have extraordinarily high standards when looking for a mate—however, we fail to look a little bit deeper at why this is the case.
These showed that some prefer mates which the majority find unattractive, rather than always chasing the best-looking members of the opposite sex.
Experts believe the same theory could hold true for people.
With that in mind, we asked our Facebook followers if they’ve ever fallen in love with a man they initially found unattractive and whether or not they thought they were capable of doing so. Nyah: not that he wasn’t attractive but that his looks didn’t pull me before his personality…he isn’t bad looking it’s just he isn’t some pretty boy Dana: it depends on how unattractive i think he is to start with. I used to tease him and draw stick figures and say it was him.
but the more time you spend with someone the better they start to look to you. He was exceptionally smart, funny and that’s a turn-on for me. After talking with him, loved his humor and overall personality.
While women may get an ego boost when they receive 30-100 messages in any given week, nobody really wishes to have that much admin to sift through.
, though I would probably argue that Kevin James is kind of a stud, and really, that's exactly the point I plan on making-- and we see it in our friends.
Mostly it’s that I don’t have any physical attraction to them, but once in a while (about twice a year if I’m on a lot of dating sites, or once every few years if I’m not), I’ll meet someone I actually think is good looking (a hint here is that I find most celebrities physically unattractive, apparently my sex drive is picky but I couldn’t tell you why – although I DO have a high sex drive…).
However, I’m also aware having been through a lot of therapy after numerous and significant mental health difficulties (eating disorders etc.) that I tend to date cold or unavailable men and then not ask for more and maintain that emotional distance – essentially, I seem to have been in a habit of avoiding intimacy by going out with people I don’t find attractive, or more often than I’d like to admit, men who I know are gay before I even ask them out…otherwise they’re narcissistic or give mixed messages, or aren’t close in some way etc.
Headlines are just as important as the content in your message.
Don't give up on finding love just because you're not the best looking girl or guy.