When I asked him if we were going out properly he just said he ‘wasn’t there yet, and wasn’t even sure if he wanted a serious relationship.’ “I don’t want to push it as I have a really nice time with him.I don’t want to come across as some relationship-obsessed harpy and I’m sure once we’ve been seeing each other for long enough he’ll come round – we’re in a relationship in all but name anyway.” I slightly want to bang my head against the keyboard now, not least because I’ve said the same thing more than once in the past.Seligson: My baseline is one year in a monogamous relationship.Do you see this as someone you are making big sacrifices and life decisions around?I’m not judging – I can see how easy it is to get into that situation.Earlier this year, The New York Times published an article called “The End of Courtship?
You buy furniture together but you say, "What happens when if we broke up? " There is no definite sense this will culminate in marriage.
If the man you are seeing exhibits many of these signs, it’s time to question: why are you wasting your precious youth, time and worry on someone who is NOT worth your time?
I truly believe in patience and understanding when it comes to men – it is part of being a mature and feminine woman.
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“)Your task is to really see what a man does for what it is, and make your decision from there.