Should the relationship evolve, there will be plenty of time to get into weighty topics. When a person reveals too much too soon, it can give a false sense of intimacy. In reality, premature or exaggerated revelations are due more to boundary issues, unresolved pain, or self-centeredness than true intimacy. Maybe your first date questions will lead you to discover that this person is your soul mate—or maybe not.
This normally, or ideally, happens gradually over time but in this case, it is given a catalyst – structure that helps it happen in a more accelerated way.
“He seems like a good guy, but can I stand one more failed date evening? ” After dozens of typical ‘dumb dates,’ she knew sitting in a dark room watching another movie and having a drink in another dark room wasn’t getting her any closer to marriage. But don’t you think asking questions like this turns the date into some kind of formal interview?
“Take this card and play the dating game.” I handed her a card with 10 questions. On your next date give him this card and ask him to choose two questions which you will answer. You can’t ask more than two questions per date.” Here are the 10 Questions: “You game? I’m afraid it’s a turnoff.” I reassured Karen that I knew from experience with other singles that this works. But if her date is dating for the right reasons, he’ll go along with it. If the questions spark great conversation, that’s a good sign for a second date. ” Click here for a PDF version of the Dating Game Card.
The opinions, facts and any media content here are presented solely by the author, and The Times of Israel assumes no responsibility for them. This is all based on a study by psychologist Arthur Aron. What makes a relationship more intimate is the two people progressively opening up to each other and accepting each other for better and for worse.
(No, you can’t possibly like both.) What’s your favorite number? At the end of the questions they stared into each other’s eyes for four minutes.