And there was no way to tell, when I was tossing back a vodka soda, which me would emerge that night.
But when I said goodbye to alcohol and its commensurate drama, I didn't intend to bid farewell to dating.
If you decide that you want to date non-recovering people, it’s best to have some clean time under your belt and be solid in your recovery, as this can lead to tempting situations.
You should also always be upfront about your recovery.
I'd had enough embarrassing nights out; I'd woken up beside more than my fair share of unattractive strangers, and was, in turn, more than ready to bid farewell to the drunken rants, crying jags and battles with lovers, friends, cab drivers, cashiers and waiters.
I've been a DD a few times and it's OK, but mostly it's just awkward. I shouldn't have stopped online dating just because that one woman showed up drunk (or because she lied about her age and omitted any mention of her teenage son in her profile, both of which are also true) any more than you should give up on dating in bars, just because one jerk creeped up on you one night. The reason is this: Online dating is tailor-made for people who are looking for something specific.
But don't forget: Guys don't have to be either drunk or digital for you to meet them.
Bars and online dating are not your only two options.
Whether it is a replacement to fill the void that drugs and alcohol used to fill, or a distraction from actually working on yourself, getting into a relationship too early can lead to complications and consequences for you and your partner.
Here are a few tips that can help you navigate the new world of dating in sobriety: Tip #1 - Decide If You Want to Date Others in Recovery or “Normies”This can be something that changes over time or on a case-to-case basis, although there are many who typically date one or the other.